Julia’s Analology for Sex Education—do’s and don’ts

Julia’s Analology for Sex Education—do’s and don’ts

Religious sex education:  

The Bible says… well technically it really doesn’t talk about pre-marital sex. It discusses sexual immorality, extreme passion, and sex between husband/wife.  It does discuss control over passion. Passion, however, should be in check regardless of where one is married or not. If you actually want to know, do not look up pre-marital sex in the Bible but virginity.  Sexual immorality couldn’t be any more explained than it is something that is perverse like adultery, bestiality, bondage, masochism, sexual slavery, etc. Unlike archaic old Mosaic Cultural law and archaic Old Sharia law, having sex with minors is considered a criminal offense in the USA as well as other countries and so is sexual slavery. 

“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is hold and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, they very God who gives you his Holy Spirit.” (1 Thessalonians 4.3-8)

Next …. A parent’s role: Open your mouth and communicate with your child on their age level where they understand. Do not be afraid to talk to your children about this subject. It is wise if you take the opportunity and do not leave it up to the boys or girls locker room.  You want the child to be comfortable in coming to your regardless of any situation.

Does abstinence work? Who knows because it is actual up to the individual. In some cases, yes, and in some cases, no.

Start by opening up the subject, I have learned…

For example (me personally): I could not tell my children not to have sex before marriage because I did. They didn’t know it at the time I spoke with them. I thought seriously, I cannot be a hypocrite.  I have to be honest with myself before I can be honest with them.  But, I have learned that if you wait and have sex only with your spouse, then you can grow with them. The longer a couple wait, the better the sexual encounter, the deeper the marital passion and love. I learned this through observation.

Be aware, that in 2017, there are no guarantees in any relationship. People that I know have told me a key secret is mutual respect and healthy understand of each person. Another key is faithfulness, patience, understanding, time commitment, and the simple things in life like companionship.  These people that I observe have been married for more years than I can count. So, there are still and can be lasting, strong relationships.

My relationships with men have all been terrible and all for the wrong reasons. When I realized this, I became divorced in 1993. I chose not to marry again. I chose to stop having any type of personal mate type relationship and live practicing abstinence for over 10 years. It is my choice and mine alone.

Sexuality of your child is very important. Are they heterosexual or homosexual? The important issue for every parent is unconditional love regardless. You may not like it or approve of your child’s choices, but as a parent, is it a crime for your child to be homosexual? You have raised your child in hopefully a Christian atmosphere but that does not ensure that your child’s sexuality. You have to weigh whether or not your child’s happiness is important regardless of whether or not you approve of their choices. However, you don’t have to approve if your child chooses criminal behavior (i.e. child porn or your 18-year-old being involved with a really young child sexually) or illegal narcotic addition—because those are totally different that sexual preferences. Be understanding and listen. Be open and discuss your feelings about the subject. Do not throw them out of your house not should you be ashamed of your child.  Why? How many skeletons do you have in your closet Mr. or Mrs. Perfect Parent? In the end, your child’s choices is between them and God.

Unwanted pregnancies are really not an issue unless it happens in the commission of a crime. Sexually transmitted diseases are very important and could cost your child their life.  Be knowledgeable as a parent on STDs.  I always understood that condoms and spermicides are the best method to protect one from an STD other than abstinence. I personally have never had one and I can speak openly and honest when I tell you neither have my adult children.

Teach your daughters to guard their beverages at parties and not to get intoxicated. Teach your boys “hands off if the sexual partner is intoxicated- period!” It doesn’t matter how it looks sexually – if your sexual partner is intoxicated NO SEX—HANDS OFF! Furthermore, do not allow others to have sex with an intoxicated person if you are aware of such a situation. One who has sex with a partner intoxicated, could face felony rape charges, jail time, media exposure and a lot of monetary expense. Boasting about it is a shameful act more so than denying that it happened. If your child is guilty of doing this, be truthful, supportive, but truthful. Do not blame the intoxicated person. You should know if your child is a “little perv!”

I will repeat, abstinence doesn’t always work, so do not be naïve and think it does. Being educated and keeping those lines of communication open, can very well save your child’s life.  Ask yourself, would you rather your child be dead or have an unwanted pregnancy? BIRTH CONTROL. Tell your children about that. Grandchildren are the most wonderful thing, I have two. But, it can get young people off their goals in life and cause financial upset as well as additional stresses to a family that isn’t prepared.  

Teach your child to respect of their bodies and themselves. They don’t have to prove anything sexual to anyone. It is okay to say NO to peer pressure and they don’t have to go along with the crowd. Being unique doesn’t necessarily mean cool fashion, being unique means being your own person. 

Communication is a key to all of this. Take this advice from a person who was educated in the school of life. I learned that I really didn’t come from the cabbage patch later in life and boy was I shocked especially when someone opened up the cage to my cloistered upbringing. At one point in my life, I could probably make a wild girl or boy blush. Do not do like I did. Learn from my mistakes.

Go with God. Rest peacefully in his arms.

PS… I can be human and hypocritical like everyone else too.  We are all sinners, equally in God’s eyes.